Interactions between adults are very simple; if it feels good, be together, and if it doesn't, stay away. If you lack independence and are dependent on others, then you shouldn't try to take advantage of the situation while pretending to be virtuous. You can't have both benefits; that is not acceptable. You can't do both and set up a facade; there aren't that many good things in life. Choices in life mean making sacrifices; behind every choice, there is always a cost.