Stop putting full responsibility on your struggling boyfriend. He is your partner, not your father. There is a difference between support and total burden. If he is still trying to build himself, piling everything on him is not love, it is pressure.

Pray about your problems. Lean on your family when necessary. A relationship should not become a rescue mission. Support should be mutual, not one person carrying the whole weight.
If he is compassionate, he will help willingly. But it should come from his heart, not from force or emotional manipulation.
- Alex Ekubo